This year for New Year’s Eve Cort and I stayed out all night and danced on tables while singing the star spangled banner! Just kidding-we skipped the babysitter and were in bed by 10:30pm. We did however, grill a delicious shrimp dinner, and drank lots of champagne while reminiscing about 2015. I wrote a bunch of questions-some silly, some geniune and heartfelt-on little strips of paper that we took turns answering (those answers applying to 2015). Such a fun thing to do! It would definitely be great to do with a group. We also made cards with our New Years resolutions (see mine below)…but before I get too side-tracked back to those questions! One them read “What’s the best advice you’ve received this year?” We both thought long and hard but couldn’t pin point an actual phrase or piece of advice. We agreed that it had something to do with how to raise your baby/child and moved onto the next question. A few weeks ago the best advice I had received couldn’t be more apparent.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BEFORE YOU TAKE CARE OF OTHERS.
Now this applies to people of any age in any situation. But I think as parent it is SO TRUE. Particularly because as a parent you have a huge responsibility in ya know, TAKING CARE OF SOMEONE. As a new parent it is your duty to guide this little being and help them grow in every way. But if you aren’t taking care of yourself, how are you able (physically and mentally) to care for someone else? Obviously it can be done and is done on more occasions than it should be.
But let me tell you something.
YOU will be a whole lot less frustrated when your day doesn’t goes as planned.
YOU will have more patience when your baby is fussy all day because she didn’t sleep well last night and won’t go down for a nap.
And when YOU suddenly can’t make it to the store like you had planned and have no idea what to cook for dinner YOU will order pizza and everything will be just fine! You will roll with whatever is thrown at you and not think twice. Ok, maybe you’ll think quite a few times but you get what I’m saying here.
You will be able to handle any situation with more control and patience because you are not struggling with some problem that is causing you to be irritated/ upset /or whatever it is that is making you feel unpleasant. Cort and I were given a special gift before M was born to focus on US. Most people gift you with things for the baby (well duh, most of those things you will need to survive being a new parent and you will be extremely thankful for!) But rarely do you receive a gift that is meant for just the you. We were gifted with a couples massage and more.. We had a nice long lunch and walked around all afternoon and just took time to RELAX. I love my baby but sometimes you just need to do you. And how important it is! I can’t remember the last time I felt that relaxed. The following week I felt like I could handle ANY situation. Suddenly I became the best mom on the planet and was able to be present in every moment.
It was SO apparent to me that taking that afternoon to really take care of myself helped me to better take care of others, specifically Marquesa. It helped me be a better mother/lover/friend. I will most definitely be taking time to be aware of how I’m feeling and if I need to take time for myself ( even if it’s just 10 minutes) I’m going to go out of my way to do. Because why wouldn’t you want to be the best version of you?n
What’s the best advice you’ve recieved?